Sunday, May 12, 2013

My Mother - Part 1


I was listening to the radio yesterday. The RJ asked the callers what they liked the most about their mothers. One girl answered that she loved her mother for her cooking. This small talk on the radio made me think about what I loved the most about my mother.

I love my mother for her courage and her wisdom. She is a brave, determined and compassionate woman who always encouraged me to dream and aspire for bigger things in life. She is not only a mother but also a practicing Gynaecologist and Obstetrician with her own establishment.

Among all the memories I shared with her, the memory below is a special one, because this incident is the reason why I believe she is a strong and courageous woman. I was about 12-13 years old at that time.   

My mother…

I splashed a red water colour across the white paper. The paper drank the red colour. I dipped my blue painting brush into yellow color on the palette. As I was about to paint, I heard the telephone ring, ‘tring tring tring’. It was those days when the phones had screeching tones and the receivers were at least half a pound. My mother walked out from the bedroom and picked up the ash colored receiver. Here plaited black hair rested on her chest and the black sari with dark maroon flowers contrasted against our white marble floor.

She said, ‘Hello, who is it?’ and was silent for a few seconds.

The she slammed down the receiver. I asked her, ‘Who is it?’

She replied, ‘Wrong number’, and went inside the bedroom.

I painted red and yellow streaks on the upper half of the paper, melting the boundaries that separated the colors to create a sunset. The phone rang again; ‘tring’ and my mother came hastily from the bedroom and picked it up.

She said, ‘Hello, who is it?’

After a moment of silence, she said, “Who are you? What are you telling? If you call again, I will report to the police” and she put down the receiver.

I dropped the painting brush aside, came close to her and asked, ‘Mother, who is it?’

She replied, ‘It is a prank call. Nothing important’ and stroked my hair.

She went inside the room and called somebody.

She said, ‘Hello! Where are you? Hmm…I just now got a call, the person claimed that he is a naxalite and asked for Rs. 50,000. He said he will come tomorrow evening to take it. Hmm...I thought it was a prank call, the first time, but he also called the second time. What should we do? Hmm…I told him that I will report to the police. Should we do it? Hmm…I will call our SI and have him here tomorrow evening. Can you come tomorrow? Umm…‘I will call your brother and see if he can help. I will keep you updated.’

She hung up the call. I slowly walked to my painting and sat on the floor. I held the brush in my hand but I could not paint. The conversation of my mother with my father revealed the facts behind the so called ‘wrong number’. My father was out of town at that time. I knew it was serious but I was too young to understand the implications of the call.

                                                         To be continued...


With my Mom at Alleppey, 2009

Sunday, April 28, 2013

I only swear when I drive - Part 2


My other lab-mate told me about an experiment that he read on one of the blogs. He said, ‘S…, you should swear’
‘Why?’
‘I read about an experiment. In that, they filled a tumbler full of ice and asked the participants to put their hand in the freezing water and to stay so as long as they can. The people who swore stayed the longest. Swearing takes some of the tension away. So you should’

I looked at him and nodded my head in disagreement. I maintained my non-swearing attitude until I completed my Ph.D. in Chicago and came to Bangalore and as soon as I started driving everything changed.

This very ugly habit of mine props up when I see pedestrians lurking behind the bushes on the divider, waiting to cross. At this point of time my heart skips a beat. Would the pedestrian jump before my car like a primordial tribeman/woman? At that speed can I stop? I also hate that the tempo and the BMTC bus drivers have the right of way at all times. They overtake me mercilessly and come in front of me. No hand gesture, no indicator! The psyche of these drivers is mysterious. The bus stops are on the left side of the road but they still want to drive on the right side and most of the times they drive very slowly.

A few other cab or bus drivers are very talented. They drive on the left side of the road but they want to take a right turn at the junction. They willfully stop the traffic and turn right and all the honks are unheard. Auto drivers are the worst. They have absolutely no sense of direction and their brake lights never ever work. Sometimes, I am amazed at their quick thinking and movement. As soon as they see an empty space they budge in. The bike drivers do not fall behind the auto drivers. They drive in sinuous routes and God forbid if there is any space between one car bumper and another bumper they move in between. I am always scared that I will hit some bike guy. I imagine that I am big whale and all these bike drivers are small fishes and I have to skilfully maneuver so that I do not eat up those small fishes.

Patience is never a virtue at the traffic junction. People behind me honk as soon as the light turns green. Where do they expect me to go? The car in front of me has not moved yet. Do they think that my car has wings and it could fly over the car ahead of me?

There is no wonder that with all these lovely people sharing the road, I do swear, when somebody overtakes me and comes in front of me without giving a signal, when pedestrians wait to pounce on my car. Swearing is one of the essential elements that help me survive in the Bangalore traffic.

Saturday, April 20, 2013

I only swear when I drive! - Part 1


I only swear when I drive! I realized this horrible truth as soon as I started driving in Bangalore. It was a hidden character inside me that has not revealed itself until now. It all started like this.

I started learning to drive in October of last year. My husband took driving classes for me whenever the driving school guy did not show up. On one ill-fated day my husband was taking the driving class. We were driving in front of CMRIT college and I was behind the wheel. I saw a pedestrian walking on the road but not on the footpath. At that point of time my driving skills were limited to driving on the left side of the road, almost sticking to the footpath. The pedestrian encroached my space! I had to slow down, press the clutch, switch the gear and move slightly away from him. At the same time there were cars coming from the other side of the road. For a beginner, who has absolutely no road sense, this was a gargantuan task so there came my first swear word,’ f**k’. My husband was stunned. We were about six months young in our relationship and he did not know this side of me.

 I immediately said, ‘I am sorry. There is a foot path right beside him. Why can’t he walk on that? Why does he have to walk on the road?’
My husband replied, ‘Calm down’.
He immediately added, ‘Move away from him. Are you going to run over him or what?’

I really wanted to run over him. Why else are there footpaths for? The pedestrian had no intentions to cross, he was just walking on the road as though he owned it. I had no other option but to move away from him.  

People motivated me to swear in my PhD and their efforts were not wasted. Their speeches have registered in my subconscious mind and waited for fulfillment in the most inopportune moment.   

My labmates swear words flew along with their vocabulary whenever some piece of equipment did not work. The harsh words hit the metallic surface of the experimental apparatus and repelled back at me. AT one instance, one of my lab-mates (name not provided here for sensitive reasons), was conducting the experiments.Every time, the experiment went wrong, he wrote the word, ‘fanculo’, beside the experimental details in the lab record book.
I asked him, ‘What is this?’, and pointed at the word, ‘fanculo’
He replied, ‘It means that the experiments did not work in Italian’
I smiled and said, ‘No, I don’t think so’
He responded, ‘Yes it is true’ and seriously nodded his head.

Since I was the only non-swearing person in the lab, my lab-mates tried to enrol me into the swear club. They gave scientific explanation as to why mouthing bad words is good for people.

To be continued...

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Things I miss about Chicago-Taylor Street


What will I miss about Chicago? I will miss a lot of things about Chicago. I want to start with the neighbourhood that I stayed in. It is called as Taylor Street, the Italian street. There is a high-end restaurant, Tuscany at the corner of Taylor and Miller Street. I could see Tuscany and it’s parking lot from one of my apartment windows. I loved to see top notch cars getting parked in the parking lot by the valets, Cadillac, Mazda, Buick etc. Once, I even saw a red colored Ferrari. I remember one particular valet who always spoke something loudly in Spanish whenever I passed by Tuscany’s parking lot.I will miss the chatter of the people dining in Tuscany, the clinking of the knives and forks on the white ceramic plates. I will always remember the way they looked at me while eating their exquisite Italian pasta or spaghetti as though I was some exhibit walking by.




I will miss the cozy thai restaurant, ‘Thai Bowl’ in which the UIC students got a 10 % discount. I never failed to avail that discount when I was a student. I was a student for a long enough time, for about 5.5 years and in all those years I must have saved at least 100 bucks, thanks to Thai Bowl. I miss the wonderful times I spent with my friends in that restaurant. I used to take the fortune cookies as dessert. As I edged close to 25, I started taking an extra fortune cookie for my would-be life partner, whoever that would be. Whenever, I looked at my fortune, it reminded me of my uncle’s fortune. It said, ‘You just realized how futile your life is’. May be the guy who wrote the fortune cookie got pissed off that he has to write fortune for others when he himself cannot find his fortune. I will miss all the times I sat outside the restaurant with friends in summer, in the small enclosure decorated with small pretty pink and blue flowers and batted the mosquitoes as we ate chicken satay, thai fired rice, basil chicken and drank thai iced tea. One time, I had a fired banana for dessert. I could not understand why the chef had to torture the fruit by dipping it in dough and deep frying it. I felt sad for the banana and never had it again.



There used to be an Italian lemonade shop, Mario’s Italian Lemonade, right across Thai Bowl. It was a famous destination. Every summer after the store opened on May 1st a long queue of people used to stand in line to savor the lemonade, which was just crushed ice flavoured with fruit flavoured syrups. Sometimes, tourist buses used to stop in front of Mario’s Lemonade and the tourists loved having the cold lemonade in that hot weather. The cost of the lemonade was $1. I used to crib about the price. It was expensive for just crushed ice with syrup on top of it. In spite of all my boisterously voiced complaints with friends, I ended up in the line on May 1st of every summer. It was an iconic little shop on that iconic street and no one can move away from that shop without enjoying the lemonade.



A cute little cupcake shop, Flirty cupcakes, opened up across Tuscany, just at the time when I was about to leave. The cupcakes were expensive about 5 bucks for a two-bite sized cupcake. But, when you bite into the cupcake, it was soft and moist and the core was juicy.  It soon became my favorite spot.  I used to enjoy at least one cupcake every two weeks.

  
                                       
There is a lot more to tell about Taylor Street. I will continue it some other time.

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All images are taken from google images
Flirty cupcakes: www.hertown.com
Tuscany: www.skyscrapercity.com
Mario's Italian Lemonade: noshameadventures.blogspot.com
Thai Bowl: www.tumblr.com

Sunday, March 24, 2013

A relationship gone sour



I looked down from my window and saw the road and the cars parked on the street covered with snow. The trees were dressed in snow as well. Their white branches extended to my window and beckoned me to enjoy the pristine snow and to hear the first crunch of the snow under my footsteps.
I had to get some groceries to survive for that week. I put on my white sweater, my brown winter jacket, my black hat, gloves, pink socks, black boots and came outside. As I walked on the snow, I heard a familiar crunch and with every footstep I created a footprint that will stay there for a long time. The chill wind brushed past me and tired to get in through the gaps between my coat and gloves, gaps between my jeans and socks and kissed my face, as though it meant no harm at all. The notorious cold wind wanted to borrow some of my warmth. But, I did not give that pleasure to it, I tugged my coat closer. 

I went to the grocery store and got the perfect bachelorette food, noodles and soup packets. As I stood at the crossing and waited for the green man to appear on the signal, I heard somebody walk behind me. I turned around and I saw a young woman in a long purple tweed coat walking her dog. She came and stood beside me. The dog sat between both of us. Its black coat glowed in the dimly lighted street. I looked at the dog. It looked at me with large dark brown expressive eyes which intrigued me. They looked at me with great love and longing. They asked me, ‘Don’t you remember me? Have you forgotten me?’ Those questions puzzled me. To this day, I remember that cold wintry night in Chicago, those big brown eyes and the questions which bewildered me. I wondered if I had some special relationship with dogs. But it was about to change soon and I did not realize it.

I moved from Chicago to Bangalore, about two years after that incident happened. I started working in Bangalore. I drove to office and parked my car in a parking lot which is about 500 m away from my office. The entrance to the parking lot had barricades on either side of it so I had to go through a narrow path to enter the parking lot. 

One fine morning, as I got close to the entrance of the parking lot, I saw that a light brown-colored dog blocked the entrance and slept there peacefully. I honked as I approached the dog. I hoped that my incessant honking would scare it away. I came close to the dog. It was no longer within my view. I stopped the car, got out and looked if the dog was still there. It was still there! It looked at me with nonchalant eyes, which said, ‘I don’t give a damn about you’. This kind of attitude from the dog bewildered me. I wondered, when did dogs begin to feel above humans? I was honking away in an effort to save its life but it remained there and questioned my authority. 

I did not want to accept defeat. I got into the car, got a bit close to it and gave a persistent honk which lasted for a couple of seconds. I got out of the car. The dog did not go away from its favourite spot. I was invisible to the dog and my horn was unheard. It rested its head on its paws and pretended to sleep. I did not know what to do. I tried to scare it away by voicing a tiny ‘shoo’ and big ‘shoos’ but nothing worked.   

A security guard came by. I called him and told, ‘Are bhaiyya, is kutte ko bhagado. Subah subah marna nahi chahti (Brother, scare the dog away. I don’t want to kill the dog early in the morning). He came towards it menacingly and shouted loudly, and the dog ran away. I could finally get into the parking lot after my doggie fiasco. 

This incident really made me think about my special relationship with dogs. The dog from Chicago gave me a false impression about how dogs in general, felt about me. Well, the dogs from Bangalore have a completely different opinion about me. That left me pondering what kind of relationship did I really have? Was it a location-specific mutual feeling that ended as soon as I moved to a different continent?

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 Spring was finally here in Bangalore. Last week, I captured a few pictures of the trees with their pretty pink flowers.


Sunday, March 10, 2013

I am a woman



The song started something like this

When I was little girl
About twelve years old
My mama told me
I am a woman. I am strong…
I sang that song, until I panted for breath and until my throat ached. I felt really good and prepared to tackle what came after that.

In fall of 2011, I attended the Society of Women Engineers (SWE) conference in Chicago. I was doing my Ph.D. at University of Illinois at Chicago during that time. The conference was organized at McCormick Place. It was a huge convention center which covered an area of 2,670,000 sq. ft.

When I reached the McCormick place, I was amazed at the monstrosity of that place. The place was filled with women in professional suits and skirts. I was mainly there for the job fair. About 250 companies were participating in the job fair. The job fair would open up at the end of the day, so I attended a few sessions on personality development and job-fair related sessions such as, ‘How to write an effective resume’, ‘How to make the best of a job fair’ and mock interviews. Apart from all this professional training, SWE also had a lava lounge. Women can visit the lava lounge, can get free manicures and get pampered.

There were so many women all around me; dressed in their pretty black suits and I loved that. As a female in the engineering stream I never saw many women at our conferences. There would always be a handful of women among countless men. In this conference, the gender counts were reversed and that brought a smile to my face.

A Blues concert preceded the job-fair. About 500 attendees were present at the concert. We were in a big hall lit up in blue. I sat beside a woman dressed up in a black suit and her blond hair was tied up neatly into a bun. 

I looked at her and said, ‘hello’. She replied, ‘hello’
I asked her, ‘Which University are you from?’
‘University of Michigan’
‘So you came from Ann Arbor’
‘Yes’
‘Lot of companies are coming to recruit students in the job fair’
‘Yes, I have seen that in the brochure’
‘When are you graduating?’
‘Next fall. What about you?’
‘I will be graduating next spring. What is your major?’
‘I am doing my Master’s in Mechanical Engineering. What about you?’
‘I am doing my Ph.D. in Chemical Engineering. Are you looking for a job in any specific location?’
‘I am looking for internships in Atlanta’
‘Why there?’
‘My husband is an officer in the Army there’
‘Oh’
‘I was working in the Army as well. Both of us have been to Iraq and back’
‘Wow, that’s great’
‘After coming back from Iraq, I joined in University of Michigan do my Master’s.’
‘Good for you.’
The concert started by then.  I told her, ‘Good luck for the job fair’
She replied,’ you too’.

There were about 6 performers on the stage and that included both singers and musicians. Among all the performers, even to this day I remember the African American woman who leaded the performance. She had a bulky frame and she wore of dress of animal print. When she sang her voice was not mellifluous. It was authoritative. A voice which made the other person feel weak in his/her knees. The only difference was that she was using that voice to cheer us up and boost our moods for the upcoming job fair. No wonder, she was called as Nellie ‘Tiger’ Travis. I read later that she got the nickname ‘Tiger’ after she came to Chicago. The nickname symbolizes her intense vocal style and her towering, dominating and confident personality.

The ‘tiger’ sang several songs, that evening. Her last song was, ‘I am a Woman’. As she reached the climax of the song, she ordered all of us to stand up and shout, ‘I am a Woman. I am strong’ and to clap as we sang. We did that for about 2 minutes. At the end of the song, she asked us to clap for ourselves and for every other woman in our presence, for being what we are and for enduring what we have. She wished us good luck for the job fair. She prepared us to pounce on our prospective employers with confidence in our hearts and excitement in our bones. 

                                                       
                           Nellie Travis picture from www.chicagobluesguide.com

Youtube link to the song. I could not find a better video of this song than this

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Of Rides and Senses



In Chicago, I used to take the blue line to go to downtown. As I waited at the station, I looked at the cars on the highway, which was parallel to the tracks. I liked to watch the cars zooming by. They moved one after another in a disciplined way. The windowpanes of the cars were closed. The driver and the passengers were not comfortable to allow the unruly wind inside the car. The weather of the Chicago had to be blamed in that aspect. It was too cold in the winters and too hot in the summers. The driver and the passengers were accustomed to the unnatural wind circulating inside the car instead of the natural one. I have been inside one of those cars and I heard only the constant hum of the tyres on the road.

Unlike the dull rides in Chicago, the rides in my hometown, Warangal, indulged the five senses. I remember one such ride that I had a couple of years ago.

I heard the ring, ‘tring tring’ of the bicycle begging the cars and motorcycles for the right of way. I heard a sharp beep of the Yamaha or Suzuki motorcycle that zipped through the cars in the narrow space. I heard the long consistent impatient sound of the car horn, ‘keee keee keeee’, which waited for the cycles and motorcycles to clear from its way. I heard the haughty horn of the black and yellow auto, which did not care about others, cut everybody out and jerked the passengers in the auto from side to side.

I saw the powdery brown colored dust coming off the road. The dust was tasteless. The hot gusts of wind touched my exposed skin, delivered heat to my flesh and made it supple. I smelled dead fish and discovered the source. A lady in blue saree, with a red cloth on top of her head, sat cross-legged in front of a thin transparent sheet on top of which were dead fishes. They looked at all the vehicles on the road with expressionless eyes.  An elderly man with a bald head, dressed in white stood before her. They were both haggling over the price of two pomfret, that the lady held in her hand. The dead fish did not care about at what price they were being sold, so they still bore the same expressionless eyes. My senses registered all these actions within a span of few seconds. There was so much to take in.

 Apart from this short story, a few pics from the Bangalore Auto Show that I attended over this weekend. 


           Vintage cars at the Bangalore Auto Show


      Harley Davidson Bikes at the Bangalore Auto Show
          I loved this caption from Mahindra